Illustration by Marco Antonio Sepúlveda The first enabling environment for adaptation or maladjustment of the child is certainly din family and parents are active educators their children's emotional.
Almost all the generations before ours were educated according to the model:
a) mean and severe parents, blind obedience to authority, getting bitter recriminations against any failure.
b) parents polite, but firm. This model is quite opposite before. Parents worry constantly make things easier for their children and keep suffering of every kind. They will get used to all the others must act according to your wishes. Upon reaching adulthood are capable of profoundly altered if they can not buy a house in the place that is trendy.
c) parents with kindness and not firm. This formula is the worst of all, is what ultimately produces the worst results. Parents criticize and yell at the kids constantly tell them they are bad but not taught to correct their behavior.
The natural parents and educators we must prepare our children to achieve our own balance, and transmit through our own attitudes. "Parents balanced act according to the model:
d) parent friendly, but firm.
For that we must try:
1) be comprehensive and reasonable with our children. They are children, not adults.
2) Give them clear standards of conduct, firm and consistent with these guidelines, without becoming rigid attitudes.
3) To help and allow themselves to overcome the difficulties they face according to their abilities.
All this thought the purpose of doing a large increase tyrants children sometimes concealed behind closed doors and in silence.
The "boy emperor syndrome" or "little dictator" are different names given to children and adolescents who abuse their parents.
What leads a child to abuse their parents? What leads a child to feel with so much power and control over them?
If we analyze the models presented earlier in this article clearly we realize that the model c) is the most harmful and has been found gives the worst results: the children in the future antisocial behaviors tend to border on the criminal or .
We must be clear that a child should not feel that is a "centerpiece." Our inability as parents to establish clear boundaries, penalties and restrictions usually comes from fear to frustrate children. Product many times that parents have received the kind of education) that leaving relatively severe psychological consequences as we consider other educational methods falling almost without noticing the sometimes extreme permissiveness, if we unite this hedonistic society that tends to avoid pain or suffering and helps further this vision, we have the perfect breeding ground for the creation of "monster children."
So what is the best education for our children? No doubt that given the democratic homes. The democratic environment characterized by a general permissiveness, closely associated with affect. Parents provide a strong emotional support to avoid arbitrary decisions, talk much with her children in a relaxed atmosphere. These behaviors become habitual generalized to other environments. Children are active, competitive, playful, assertive, among other skills. But democratic procedures are effective only if they match the personality and attitude of parents. If parents are rigid and drivers and we want to use democratic techniques would not be appropriate because other are brewing tensions that undermine the child a.
not afraid to say no to our children, and when we fear it, look at ourselves and ask ourselves what we fear and why we feel guilty?
is important that we clear that is not love.
